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Post by dansgts on Apr 14, 2005 15:41:55 GMT -5
So 6 months ago my parents forced me quit my job as the head lighting engineer of a big church here in corona, saying it's because my grades were low. later they tell me that its because they dont like teh place, not because of my 3 c's...so they say i can go back to work but not there untill i turn 18, well i turned 18 and my parents flat out told me there gonna kick me out of the house if i go back, so for the last month, i've been working at kragen, making $7 an hour rather than my job makin $9.25 hr, would have been 10.25 by now cuz of the yearley rase. well this morning, they see my grades, 2 d's,a c, a b and a a. they automatically blame it on the computer and say i've been spending to much time on it and that im working to much, so they took my personal computer, the one I spent my own money on!!! it has a problem and needs to go back to best buy for 2 weeks for the repair, but they said no! they said its no longer my property!!! I've had it with thier shit, i have to leave the fucking house, go back to my job and get my stuff back from them, there even threating to make me quit this job!  |
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Post by 4thgenceli on Apr 14, 2005 18:54:20 GMT -5
Um...
That sucks.
When my mom said I couldn't date my now wife, I just moved out. That put a stop to her tryin to boss me around like that. We get along now of course, and my wife and mom get along... But I just stood up to her, and she backed down.
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Post by phillk6751 on Apr 14, 2005 19:16:16 GMT -5
WTF? they can't take your shit...you're older than 18, you payed for it...at least the computer you say you did...that's theft one way or another, heh. Totally sucks....hope all goes well for you though.
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Post by White87GT on Apr 14, 2005 20:59:03 GMT -5
WTF? they can't take your shit...you're older than 18, you payed for it...at least the computer you say you did...that's theft one way or another, heh. Totally sucks....hope all goes well for you though. Problem is, he's still a dependent, so it doesn't matter. Not to mention, making an issue out of stuff like that is NOT a good idea. Dan, your class of 05, right? Two questions. Are you in danger of not graduating, and have you gotten into a school for after high school? Those might have something to do with it. If you don't mind moving out, and not having help from them, sure, you could tell them to 'fuck off'. Personally, I'd try to make peace (no matter the cost) and move out on good terms. That way they'll be there to help you later on. You'll need it, trust me. Do not quit this job, no matter what. The only way that your allowed to quit is for a better or higher paying job. At 18, there is NO WAY in HELL that you will make it without some form of cash flow. Unless they want to pay your way completely, do NOT give in to that. Trust me, you can't make it. Worst case senario, just move out when you graduate, and keep the damned job. |
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Post by Futant3 on Apr 14, 2005 23:04:18 GMT -5
 that's pretty sound advice though they do seem to be a bit over their bounds taking your computer. but keep in mind if you make a big deal about it they will give it back and take away the electricity to run it so in the end you won't win any fight of that nature. just come up with a good plan to get independent and work your ass off to get it done. they might also lay off after you graduate or if grades were better
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Post by CeliBlue on Apr 14, 2005 23:17:18 GMT -5
i agree with White87GT, ive done my share of screw ups with my parents but they really just leave me alone when they see me getting good grades, staying out of trouble, and not staying out past 1am like back in high school. id rather take their shit than not go to college for sure, besides there will be plenty of time after you're on your own to make tons of money and be your own boss.
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Post by buzzbomber87gts on Apr 15, 2005 14:35:52 GMT -5
your parents are dicks....although I've never had worse than a 3.5gpa  I have a shitty job tho....only make 5.15/hr |
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Post by 4thgenceli on Apr 15, 2005 14:58:00 GMT -5
your parents are dicks....although I've never had worse than a 3.5gpa I have a shitty job tho....only make 5.15/hr Wow that is shitty... Sorry  /end hijack. Dan, stick with it, show your parent's you aren't a fuck-up, and they should turn around and respect you. I'm not proud of how I stood up to my Mom, but it worked. It put her life into a different persepctive because I lost my father about 8 years ago, and I think that's what turned our family around.. |
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Post by MIGHTY on Apr 15, 2005 19:55:32 GMT -5
1st thing Dan your 18, and you need a job to support yourself,. and if your not going to get a scholarship with your GPA, you need the money to pay for college if thier not paying for it>> this is what i did i was 17 and was working, my GPA went from 3.2 to a 2.9, and my parents went nuts saying the same thing, i told them either i work to support myself or they will buy everything that im trying to buy, they eventually changed thier mind after they bought me a 400.00 stereo that didnt even want!!!lol  so the point is make them feel secure that youll get your grades up, they will turn around and look at theselves...Mighty  |
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Post by phillk6751 on Apr 15, 2005 20:01:43 GMT -5
Problem is, he's still a dependent, so it doesn't matter. Not to mention, making an issue out of stuff like that is NOT a good idea. last time I heard, when you're 18 you have the right to own property weather you're a dependant or not....your parents don't own your wages nor your belongings...your shit is your shit. It's still theft....just my 2 cents. |
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Post by Joel87GT on Apr 15, 2005 20:17:37 GMT -5
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Post by White87GT on Apr 15, 2005 20:19:15 GMT -5
last time I heard, when you're 18 you have the right to own property weather you're a dependant or not....your parents don't own your wages nor your belongings...your shit is your shit. It's still theft....just my 2 cents. But was the computer bought when he was 18? Does he still have the reciept? We could argue that one for DAYS, and still not come to an agreement with it. The way that I look at it, bottom line, he still lives at home. He has food, and he has a bed. If he demands the computer, calls cops, etc and forces them to give him back the computer, then he gets the computer....but him and the computer get to sit outside after being kicked out. That's why I said it 'Doesn't matter'. Not to mention, who's holding the registration and insuring his Celica? Best thing to do is make peace, and don't quit the job. |
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Post by Jeremy on Apr 15, 2005 23:28:48 GMT -5
My opinion is that if my kid was fucking up & getting bad grades and ruining his chance for a good college education I would do whatever it takes to get his head out of his ass, if that included taking his property even tho he's 18 I would take that risk & hope that someday he would thank me for it.
Your parents are completely out of line making you quit your job at the church for those reasons.
If your lowest grade was a C+ I would say your parents are out of line with taking priveledges from you but ya gotta bunch of D's.
& when you think about it $9-$10 an hr is didly squat in the real world. $9-$10 will barely get you your own apartment, gas, food.
So my advice to you is just sacrifice the computer & work your ass off on those grades & when they start seeing some good grades you will see better treatment.
Your parents are only looking out for your best interests.
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Post by soreballz on Apr 16, 2005 9:00:20 GMT -5
Dan, your parents suck floppy donkey dick. Tell them to fuck off and move in with a friend. They will eventually realize that they suck floppy donkey dick, apologize to you, and let you move back in. As for the computer, take it back while they aren't home.
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Post by dansgts on Apr 16, 2005 11:50:19 GMT -5
Not to mention, who's holding the registration and insuring his Celica? the title is in my name, as is the registration, which is expired and waiting on me to renew it As for the computer, take it back while they aren't home. not possible, my stepdad took it to work with him and left it there |
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that's pretty sound advice
I have a shitty job tho....only make 5.15/hr
